choosing gratefulness

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in this episode, we chat about how we are doing lately with a whirlwind of sickness. we also go into how we are trying to navigate being grateful, shifting that mindset from negativity to thankfulness.
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hey guys, and welcome back to another episode. Hope everybody's been having a great week and Yeah, we we've been going through it a little bit With the sickness lately. Yes, sir, or just in general. I feel like because in Pregnancy, I don't remember either of the other pregnancies being like so What do you call it? Like my immunity is just shot. Like it just doesn't seem like I can even go several days without feeling something either like a sniffle or a sore throat or whatever it is and so. I have, I, I'm really lucky with the sniffles and all that. I haven't had any sore throats, sniffles or anything like that, but I had. Other problems, like flu like symptoms. Yeah, we also had this, we both had this weird four day, like, upset stomach situation. That, it's hard to explain, like, I didn't physically do anything to the toilet. For anyone who's sensitive. But, I felt so nauseous that I could the whole time. Or you didn't throw up, like I did. Well. I was trying to avoid saying that because it's triggering. That's fine. But yeah, you did like what once or twice or something, but you got it like a day later than I did or no two days later I think and I was starting to like kind of feel better but I couldn't eat like I only wanted bread with butter like something very light carbs. This, this was our, this was our New Year's. Our New Year's was like not feeling well. Yeah, that's true. It was not great. I was barely eating and Hope decided to make pierogies and I took a nice bite into a pierogi. like a carb like it was a comfort food. It was hot. I burnt my lip like I literally had a blister blister on my lip. It was horrible. It was like an instant blister because he comes over and I eat mine with a fork and he goes and I didn't realize that he was gonna just like dive right in. And he just goes in and bites it with his mouth, with his hands. I was finally getting my appetite back and I was like, I just need to take, I just need to take a bite. And I take a bite and I'm like, Satan, like it was hot. It was so hot. And it literally had just come off the stovetop. I walked away and I obviously didn't know you were just going to take a bite out of it. So my lips finally healed right now as we, as we talk about this. Thankfully. But it did blister like instant blister it scabbed. It was gross Thankfully you have like a mustache now it kind of covers it a mustache hit it. You definitely I barely even noticed it was there. So if it was like me, it'd be way more noticeable because you can't hide it Yeah that that new year's eve though was probably like the lamest And like grandma like New Year's Eve like it was we felt so sad because we couldn't even have like treats Like we were eating junk nothing. We were just we went to bed before listen We went to bed at like 11 o'clock or 11 15. Yeah, and I set an alarm for 12 But I went to bed. We didn't need an alarm because fireworks went off Outsider right outside our window in our complex area in our complex Like this guy doesn't know how to walk over to the field and let off the firecrackers Does it right inside where all the houses are? I'm like, yeah, someone's gonna happy new year. You're gonna lose your house to a fire um But yeah, like that wakes us up and then and then I was like stink and then and then I was like, okay I'm gonna set my alarm. So I set my alarm for like 11 58 and then i'm like Hey, babe, it's it's 12 now. Kiss me. I don't even remember like Oh, I'll kiss you, honey. At least I was nice. And then we had this little tiny smooch. I don't remember. As we're half asleep, barely saying Happy New Year. I'm also like, third trimester pregnant. Like, there's no way I could stay up till twelve. Yeah. Like, I'm dead tired. But it's like, it was like, part of me was a little depressed. I was like, what am I doing? I know, but we also were in a different season with kids. I know, but like, New Year's Eve has always been so, it's just like, For me, when Christmas is over, I'm always like, a little sad that Christmas is over. But then when New Year's comes, I'm like, but there's still New Year's! That's so exciting! It's like, the next week, right after Christmas, it's always a week after, and it's just like, there's still something to look forward to, the New Year's, and then obviously getting together with friends and people. None of that happens, so. I know. We did diddly squat, felt sick, like nauseous sick. We just laid on the couch and we tried watching the ball drop or whatever, or not that we watched the actual ball drop, but we were watching like the performances and man it's just getting a little much on there. Yeah, people like dress and whatnot. Yeah Anything Hollywood just just get that woke crap out of here. It was too much So then we were like, okay, like some of the things we wanted to watch and that was it But honestly, I remember being so much better like the people who performed and stuff now I'm like, I don't even know who these people are. It's all Hollywood woke crap It's just like you don't even know half the people I didn't even know half the people on there. Yeah, maybe because I don't listen to it But like anyways, there was nothing good to see so I think we watched Transformers or something. Yes. We did just watched a movie. I think it was number two. Mm hmm No, I think it might have been the first one. I think no, it was the second one. Oh, yeah Yeah, we skipped the first one went right to the second You skipped the first one and you're all upset because of that one scene we didn't get to hear the guy Left cheek left cheek left cheek. I know I was like, that's the best part So funny, I think it's a number one, but we couldn't figure out which one it was in So anyways, we had a very interesting New Year's Obviously time has gone since then but yeah, that was how we spent ours Because we were obviously recorded our other one before it. So yeah, it's been been fun And now now speaking of sickness still not to go on and on about it But this is just the realness of what's been going on with me is I had that flu thing and then I started getting a sore throat and A bit of a runny nose and then my nose starts burning Inside feels like it's like this dry burning sensation I don't know if anyone else's experiences, but it's just awful like it feels like you're Can't really smell and then I'm like, I feel like I might be losing my taste and smell and I lost that like two years Ago for two weeks and it was so horrible. I remember being miserable. I'm like, why do I eat everything just tastes like mush? Why should I even bother and obviously you're still hungry. So you have to feed yourself, but I was like, this is just brutal Anyways, so that's been kind of starting again. So I don't know what the heck I have but it's like kind of starting again and And so I'm just like I could still taste Nathan was like what what percentage do you think you have right now? I'm like, I don't know like I think I have like about 50 50 But like if you think of it even as a hundred percent I'm like, of course that everything tastes better when it's a hundred percent versus like 50 percent So and my nose still feels yeah, I've never lost my smell or taste ever. It's Literally the worst thing I'd rather feel but I feel like to my stomach or I would just be able to eat so much healthier You just don't feel like you don't have as much of an appetite though That's the issue cuz you're like nothing tastes good. Like you want to eat food for the taste I'll just say right now when you lose your smelling scent. I really like it cuz when I fart I don't hit me You don't abuse me. I know, but it's also like a downfall, because when, like The kids poop. Yeah, well Haven, because she's still like, in the midst of potty training and also in her diaper, but She, uh, even like pooped today, and I was like, well, I didn't know, because I can't smell. Yeah. So she had to like, tell me what she tells me anyways. She'll usually tell you, Mommy, I pooped! Yeah. She's so proud. But, uh But she is being potty trained. We're working on getting her off the Yeah, she's doing all her number ones in the potty, but number twos are harder. But, she's doing better. It'd be awesome if we could get her potty trained by when baby comes. Yeah, that is like the ideal situation. I feel like because Tobias so like at that point he even brags about it He's like, yeah, I go without being told He told me that at least once today and he told me that the other day as well and I was like, yes I know and I have to remind him like Well, you know what Haven's younger than you and she's learning right now. She doesn't know what that feels like So she's learning what that feeling is and um It's just funny because he's just like I can do it. He's just kind of like that. It's awesome Like I literally love it Happy thing and it's really cute But when he he's so cute though when she actually does go and he's around when she's gone to the bathroom He's so proud of her. He even went to the potty And he's so proud of her. Oh my god, get her sticker get her sticker. Yeah, he's so encouraging and sweet So that's really really good bro. He's a very sweet big brother. He's gonna be him like Amazing brother for two girls. I think yeah, I can't wait till her other one comes. I know you almost said the name again I almost said the name again. We said it in the last I said it in the last pod I know and I was like Nathan Hope had to said the name. Yes. I had to beep it out She had to beep it out. So if you heard a beep you heard a beeping it's not a swearing It's just me saying her child's name that we don't want to announce yet. It's special We want to save it for the birth of the baby so that's pretty much where we're at. I think this podcast where we, we were discussing what, what can we talk about and, still put that out there for anyone that's listening, um, that if you have any. Thing that you would like us to talk on or speak on that would be also good Like we'd like to write down like a list of stuff that we kind of want to talk about Yeah, and I usually like we usually try and talk about things that are relevant to like what we're going through Just because there's more passion and like feelings Towards what what we would like to talk about but yeah Definitely like open to like hearing what people want to hear if there is something for sure Yeah, so what this podcast is what we really want to talk about on this one is Just being thankful It's so crazy that I think I think I'd like to just start off by saying I think it's pretty crazy That we don't realize How good we have it at least on this side of the world Like North America side and I feel like you spoke about that once before yeah, and so I I think it's really good that we just kind of even just have this conversation and just As a reminder and all the things that we're thankful for. So obviously I'd say the The thing I'm most thankful for is my relationship with God and knowing Jesus, but obviously, hope in the kids. I'm extremely thankful for them. Having that family, it's so just special to have that. Yeah, I mean. I feel like, in my day to day, I've been just trying to focus on the li like, whatever kind of comes to my mind to be thankful for. Like, if I have a thought like, Oh, I like this about something in my day. I'll be like, I'll try to make a mental thing of like, God, like, thank you for that specific thing. If it even just like comes up and I think I think to it What I said for this year is I don't want to complain. I want complaining to stop But I think also with complaining and also being thankful I think one of the biggest things that that really hinders us from being thankful is Comparison like you compare like we're we're it's it's such a big North American thing like Like, if you look at Europeans and the stuff they do, I'm sure people do compare in that culture, but a lot of those people, they always try to work together. They always try to help each other out. And they're always so generous and especially with family and all that stuff. I think that Comparing is a big big issue and I I think that that takes away what you should focus on and be thankful for and I think that like that's what the enemy does. I think yeah, totally I think he totally whispers these things and oh, look what this person has. Okay, you know You know, so there's always something There's always something that someone has that you don't have Something that you have to offer that they don't have and so I think that that's What I've like I've struggled with a lot is just seeing oh my gosh Look at this person look how they get to this they're so lucky for this and that And the other and so I think at the end of the day It's just like I want to I want to focus on like the actual good in my life the you know Like, the, the things to be really thankful for, so. Yeah, for sure. I know I've seen this so many times because of social media. But, like, the biggest thing I always see is, people saying, like, comparison is the robber or stealer of joy. And it, like, couldn't be more true, cause When you even compare like I don't know how guys are like with looks and stuff like that but girls will compare like their bodies and their hair and their makeup and like Little details of like what they look like and of course you're gonna feel Like less than if you're always comparing yourself So, yeah. Comparison in general, just with, yeah. I think men do it on a different, different way. Like, I think men, um, have a lot of pride in money. Yeah, I was going to say status and business. Oh, look at me, I can take care of my family better than you can take care of your family. Kind of thing. I think it's, I don't even think it's like a It's a conscious thing. I think it's a subconscious thing that guys Yeah, I agree. Guys have, don't realize that. And it's just like they have to kind of show that they, they, they do enough for their family here or they're at this certain stage of their life. They need to be here. Yeah. And have this much and stuff like that. And like Mm-Hmm. as much as those things are still important to like be established and have all those things, I think like your heart and who you are is like. Far more important totally like your money or your status, you know, yeah, I would say I would say what's more way more important for me With my children especially is to actually have that relationship with them And I want to be known like I want my kids to grow up and not be With their friends complaining about their parents. Oh, my dad's such a Jerk or whatever. Like I want my kids to actually be like, no. Like I actually have a sweet relationship with my dad. He's cool. Yeah. Obviously he still punishes me. Obviously he still puts me in my place.'cause that's what a father's supposed to do. Yeah. But at, but I feel like they at the same respect you when you do that. Like I, I would say I have a pretty good relationship with my dad and I really do respect my dad and I don't agree with everything. My dad, especially as an adult now, like I have my own opinion on a lot of things. And you would. But, that's totally fine, but for the most part, like, my dad's, he's a good guy, like, he's, I'm really happy to have had him, and I think that he's, he's shifted the generation, especially the, the family that he came from, and so I'm, I'm extremely, if we're talking about thankful, I'm extremely thankful for the relationship that I have with my father. Yeah, and you should be because as we know we're in like a fatherless generation at times, you know what I mean? So for you to have that like whenever you feel like a time of non great or not being grateful it's something to like look back on or like think about and be grateful for because there is a lot of failed Dads in this world, unfortunately, and it's very sad because a father is so important Yeah, totally. And I think but I think that's a generational thing too. It's just like kind of breaking off that generation Because like yeah when you shift the generation, yeah, like my dad had to shift his generation. What did he come from? He came from a alcoholic father that you know was abusive and It, it wasn't, it was, it had to change and, and we'll see that shift just even from that to what your dad is. But I think, I think my, my dad too, and what, which I would say, and obviously what we always point to is, is Jesus, right? And it was my dad being able to find God and to, find out who the real father is and to acknowledge that and to be more of an example of that and to also peel back and, Layers like my dad. I'm sure he was more of a hard hearted person. Like my dad's a big dude He's a big hefty dude and manly dude And but he's a really big teddy bear and he's very soft and he's very he's very emotional and so I think that I think that that Like God really touched his heart in that way to make him because you think you like people are like I've had friends growing up They've always been like, oh your dad's so scary. So scary, but then then they really get to know him like oh my gosh She's not that scary. He's actually like kind of opposite of scary. He's like so Gentle. Yeah, you know and sweet and funny. Yeah, so funny. I'm just kidding. He's funny He could be funny sometimes It's those, it's those like really quiet like remarks, subtle remarks that you don't expect him to say and then it's really funny. Yeah it is. So yeah, but yeah, I think I think even even to when when we're talking about thankfulness I think when you're struggling with stuff like us struggling financially and going through things. I think that's when it's when when it's really hard to be thankful when you're going through the struggle I think that that's the biggest The biggest struggle is when you're like, oh, this just sucks. Everything sucks. And then, and then you just want to go down your sucky fit, you know? So. Yeah. And it's funny because I was reading a few scriptures that I wanted to look into on thankfulness. And one of them says, I feel like I'm going to butcher this. Thessalonians, I know I can say it, but I'm like, this is a long one. It's five, 16 to 18. Rejoice, always pray, continually give thanks in all circumstances. It's not just saying in the ones that are all happy and, you know, exciting. It's the ones that are hard to, and I think that's when your, your mind, your mindset actually shifts is when. You can be grateful amidst, hard times. Like, when you can actually shift your mindset to gratefulness, like, that is pretty crazy. To be able to, like, be thankful in those times. Cause as, like, anyone knows, when you're going through something, like, sad or hard or difficult, like, you're not gonna just be like, oh, I'm so grateful for that. Yeah. You know what I mean? But when you do, it's like, oh, okay, I actually feel like that much better. Because I'm like shifting my mindset. Yeah, and it brings joy. Even if it's a little bit It's like lifting your spirit and I think there's something powerful in doing that. yeah I think that that's where it comes like what I was saying is like you you can't focus on then the negative if you focus on that, then you're never gonna be thankful and but it also like back to comparison too is just like There are so many people that have nothing in this side of the like other side of the world at least I don't know I haven't experienced it. So I could only say of what I've heard others experience and like those people are so thankful like people from Cuba like Communist country like yeah, like I've experienced some really happy people there and stuff. I mean Don't get me wrong. They do have a lot less and they do know, know that like they're still able to watch TV and, and see things and see like what we're able to go out and do. And we're able to go out and earn, money and, and work hard. And yeah. And for them, it's just like, you're going to earn what everyone else earns. So it's kind of, that's kind of a hard thing. totally don't agree with communism at all. It's just like. At the end of the day, uh, you just, every single person, some people go through horrible things that are, like, you can't even explain, and for you to say, oh, how, how do you be thankful, you know, and that's where I, I think that's where it, it is hard, it's a really hard thing to do, and I think that, I think if we could focus on being more thankful, to do. Then the complaining, then the other things. I think that that's really the goal. Yeah, totally. I agree. Sorry, I'm just trying to be like not so in the mic when you're talking because I feel like in pregnancy I'm like breathing so heavily. Oh, yeah the last podcast. I remember listening to it over I was like, I kind of heard breathing and I think it was me. I was like it could have been you but it also could have been me because I feel like I like my lungs feel squished and I'm like It's just hard to breathe and like I go up the stairs like oh my gosh, I went up the stairs like At bedtime, and I was trying to talk to Tobiah and I'm like, Oh, no words were coming out because I had no breath left And I was like trying to talk to him because I was like stay in your bed Because I went down to get something for Haven I think and then went back up and he was like trying to leave his room So anyways, I was trying to talk to him and I'm like, wow, no words are coming out So, oh, yeah, another thing that I was thinking about too on this topic being thankful. Mm hmm is you don't realize that What you have until it's gone. Oh yeah. So like right now we feel really healthy. We're like, we feel a lot better. I mean, you still kind of feel a little yucky, but you're pregnant. So, but, but me, when I'm on the toilet and I'm. I can't like leave bed. I'm literally the biggest baby ever. Like I literally can attest to this. I'm like, I want my mommy. Like, I'm like a suck when it comes to being sick. Can I just say the one thing you said, the one time you were sick though, it was literally so laughable. Can I please share it? Whatever. Do you know what it is? Yes. Okay, I'll share it. No, I wanna share it. Okay, sure then. It's just so funny. I know but it's possible. Okay, it could happen. Okay. Okay, so He is getting like the feeling of chills because he was just feeling obviously not well And I've had that before like I've had like fever chills like you feel cold. It was horrible. My whole entire body is like I know I know it's so awful. Minus 20 outside. So then I'm like trying to fall asleep and I'm getting irritated because he's like Oh, I'm like not feeling good and I'm like, oh my goodness and he just keeps going on and on and then he goes to The bathroom and I'm like, you know what like I need to be the bigger person. Just make sure he's okay. Check on him and so I go into the room and he's like I I swear i'm gonna hallucinate And I was like, no you're not I was like, what if I hallucinate I didn't say I swear I gonna lose me I said, what if I hallucinate and I took my temperature. I don't know what's wrong with me I'm just freezing like I'm freezing and my temperature is normal. It was literally like in the green I was like Nathan you're fine. I don't know what's wrong like serious I couldn't leave that like I was like in and out of the bathtub because I I was freezing see whenever I have that. I don't want to go in the tub because then when you get out you're cold Okay, but when I was a kid, I wanted to put blankets on like layers and layers That's what I when I was a kid. I got sick once and I legitimately did hallucinate I screamed to my parents that's from high fever and I had a extremely high fever I saw ants all over me all over everybody ants and my parent my mom was like Freaking out. My dad just like throw him in the tub put me in a freezing cold tub, which you're actually not supposed to do But they did do it and it helped like it stopped me from Yeah, hallucinating like slightly warm. So as I'm saying, I'm just saying as I'm saying I'm just saying Wow, I'm about to wrap but What I'm trying to say is in those moments in those moments when you're extremely sick And it just, it just sucks. Like you're just done. You're in the moment. I'm done. I'm done. It's awful. I'm done. Jesus take the wheel. And you don't realize when you're having just a hard day, like, I, I can honestly say, I have some shitey days, some really crappy days. And I would take any crappy day over being sick. Like that. Like I literally can't handle being sick. Like my, my health. Like to be, to feel the way I feel right now. And then thinking about that, I'm like, no, thank you. No, thank, even the other day, even the other day. Cause I had, I had body aches and I'm telling you my body, I felt like I was like a hundred years old and now I know. If I get old, and I, and every day is just achy pain, Jesus just take me, just, I don't, I don't, I'm a baby, like, I don't want, like, pain when I wake up in the morning until I go to bed, I don't want to have to go pee and there be pain, just pain just walking to the washroom, like, no, and I am so thankful for And to, and to feel good because, yeah, even, even be thankful for your, sorry, I'm just like naming things now. thankful for your chiropractor. Yes, I am thankful for my chiropractor. Because you've had some serious bad issues at times. And I know people don't believe in chiropractor, but, sometimes, but this guy's pretty legit. Who doesn't believe in a chiropractor? You know, I have people all the time, well you're going to the, they're just going to break you, they're going to make it worse for you. I'm like, okay, well, I think it depends who you go to. Every time I go to this guy, I feel great after, so. Yeah, his method is a little different. I guess from what you like. He even says it's kind of a weird thing that he does But it works. So yeah, it definitely works because speaking of chiropractor go off on a tangent for a moment is I've had hip pain for all my pregnancies Even when i'm not pregnant because I did gymnastics many many many years ago not super intense or many years ago you old lady Well, it was grade 9, so that's That's a long time now. Long time ago. And, from that, my growth and everything was happening during that time, so I think I just had issues with tons of things, like my ankle and my hips and legs, everything. So, anyways, since then, I had always had hip pain, and then, magically, I go to this chiropractor three times, because obviously it takes time to get like fully adjusted and aligned and stuff, and I have no more hip pain. And I have not had hip pain really since then. I do sometimes, but it's like I need to go back. Definitely definitely something to be thankful for. It's very I'm very thankful because I remember I don't know if you remember too It's like by the end of the night after full day of like standing on my feet or whatever with the kids And then I come and like try to go sit down on the couch. I'd be like hobbling like literally and I could barely like once I was in bed too if I had to go the bathroom again Then I would literally be like Do you just take the wheel? Like, I can't get out of bed, this is so painful, so. I, I definitely think my back pain and everything comes from like, having a heavy pouch on me all day. Oh, for sure. The tool belt, the tool belt on all day and then lifting the drywall obviously is just, it's, it's tough on your body. I think mine's a combination, like the hip stuff is even like holding the kids because it is my right hip. And if, like over the years I've held the kids. And I can't not hold them, they Get hurt. I'm gonna lift them up and My dominant side is my right. So I'm gonna lift them onto my right So I'm like that that body shift has definitely affected it too. So just a combination of things But yep, definitely grateful for that chiropractor because this is the first time in like years that I haven't had The hip pain, so it's amazing. Yeah, it's definitely Something to be thankful for but totally There's a lot to be thankful for. I know. Maybe we could just encourage those listening to like Make a list. Yeah, make a even if it's like 10 things like it's so easy to think make a list Make a list and focus focus on those things Allow this year 2024 to be a year of thankfulness yeah this is just mainly me and hope like this is a good reminder for me and hope to At the end of the day. It's a conversation, you know, and Yeah, like we we want to we want to have a year of being more thankful and focusing on the great things in our life and yeah, and I Weighing the bad. Yeah, I also feel like I don't know if this is necessarily like a biblical thing, but I feel when we posture our hearts I feel like in gratefulness like kind of like what we said in the last one like things are just gonna like Line up like I just have this like Sense because like your mindset is different like you're not so much focused on like, yeah Well negativity that like actually like good things. Okay, so so so that's that's a really good thing Like I just had a thought when So if I go to work and I, and I'm like, oh, it's oh, oh, stupid drywall. Oh, this framer, oh, it, it's so bad, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. So, I've been working with a very big I was working before with a very big negative Nelly, and he'd literally find things to complain about no matter what. Things could be literally going great. And he would always find the negative in things. And so, that rubbed off on me a bit too. And so I'd see things differently and I'd react differently. So what I'm thinking is, if, if, like, like Hope was saying, is, Oh, things will line up better when you're, when you're being more thankful. Yeah, they will because your whole mindset will change. There'll be a shift. There'll be a shift on your day to day. You'll be focusing on the, the things you're supposed to do, not the things that you're not supposed to do. You'll be focusing on like what you like, what you like, the, the, the good, like, Oh, Oh my gosh, today was a great day. I got, I got a lot done and it was good. Instead of being like, Oh, today I did what I could do. It's like, just, just making like that, like. Like yeah, it's just turning yeah, even like the simplest thing into a different. Yeah It's as simple as that really, it's just like changing it into good. Yeah, like if you have a hard day with the kids and stuff like that, but then also just like focus on the good days, because like there's sometimes where you'll tell me like, oh, it was so hard with her today or with Tobiah or Haven, and then, and then, but then you'll be like, but then they did this and it just changed everything and stuff like that. So I think that if you focus on all the good things that the kids did throughout the day instead of focusing on the negative things. Then it's a game changer. Yeah, so yeah, like that's another thing that we like when we talked about on the last podcast About like a new year and stuff like that I think that's a really good thing to look forward to this year is just focusing on Like like like the good days not focusing on the mindset. Yeah shifting that mindset and just Going forward and just being like, you know what life is so good. There's so much to be thankful for and Just that alone will will will change your day day to day, you know And then when you do have those hard days, you just let them roll off your back. Yeah, and don't let like one Small thing of your day dictate the rest of your entire day. Totally So like if it's just like I don't even know someone Cuts you off cuts you off driving and why does that my mind go there? but someone does that and then You're on your way to work and you're just like, okay, guess my day is just going to be like, like this, isn't it? Or whatever. And instead just be like, whatever, like they're clearly in a hurry. Like good for them. I'm going to bless them, let them in, let them in. Just be like, Oh, I guess, I guess you got to go somewhere faster than I do. You never know. There could be an emergency situation. Yeah. yeah, just shifting that mindset. I think that is just what I'm getting most of like what we're saying. And I think that. It's really impactful, and I think it could really just help us, like, if we're just talking between me and you, like, having that mindset shift, I think it's gonna help us a lot. Because it's so easy to get caught in the complaining and the negative, as we know. And, yeah, just want to, like, be better with that, and then, obviously, what we talked about in the last podcast is, like, All those things together is just gonna make one better year for us, and not just focusing on what we don't have. And, yeah. Mm hmm. Yeah, I think it's very encouraging to just kinda, to, yeah, to see, to see the brighter side of things, you know, and not focus on On the harder things in life, because there is still days like there's going to be days where it's just like, Oh my gosh, nothing's going right. There is days like that. And, and, but those days you just got to like, you just got to let them go because dwelling on things is just, and that's the thing. Dwelling on things is like, it's so hard to do sometimes because you're so upset from something and you don't know how to get past it, but. It's actually like it doesn't help you actually hurts you like it really hurts you like stresses you out and I just don't think there's any benefit in that. one thing else I wanted to to mention is what I kind of said is like When you focus on what you don't have and I know we kind of spoke about this. I think like so many podcasts go I don't even remember what we had said on the topic, but for me, I feel like what Brings me into a negative mindset and which I'm trying to shift now because I'm realizing it is Like on social media the things that we see is like it could be difficult because there are always gonna be things that we want And that we can't have or can't spend money on especially now in our situation that we decided we wanted to focus more on our finances this year and just really take it more seriously and And so I'm like, okay I I've been trying to shift my mindset and I follow this one girl and she's really like she has a beautiful home But she keeps it very simple and she's all about keeping a simple home and not just buying always trendy things Because it's so easy to get caught up in like the trends and like wanting to buy it's always like this consumption thing And so she always talks about in her home like It's actually easier. This is how I'm trying to shift my mindset. It's like, I don't want tons of stuff in the home because then that's more to clean, more to dust, more to move, more to put away, at the end of the day. So when you have less things in your home that just take up space for nothing, your It's just, it's just consuming, it's more consuming, and so I think, I'm just trying to focus on like, you know what, having less decor in our home is not a bad thing. It's less to clean, and it's, it's just simple, and she just talks about having like a simple home, and I really like that because It's kind of shifted my mindset for example, I don't need, like, at Christmas time, all these new decor pieces for Christmas that are trending for that season whereas I could just have, like, staple pieces that are, like, not little knickknacks that are just gonna be, like, Out of season the next season Christmas comes around and then you're not using it So that's something that I've been trying to look at and then with clothes For because I care about that stuff is I feel like I want to focus on just getting staple pieces And if people have been talking about like a staple closet where you like Invest in pieces that you will be able to wear for time and time again that is not just gonna fall out of trend similar to like home stuff and whatever but I just think that that is also something that i've been trying to like focus on it's like Just better to have that mindset can't just always have the next trendy thing What's that song? What's that song called? Dan and Shay song? Bigger Houses. Bigger Houses. Yeah, I love that song. Yeah. It's such a good song. It's definitely, like, kind of what we're talking about, you know? Keeping up with the Joneses. Yeah. And just, you're always gonna want that house on top of the mountain and all that, so. It's such a good song, actually. Yeah. There's a few country songs. There's another one I can't think of the name, but. That is about like, Oh yeah, those girls, the girls that sing that song. Yeah. I'll list it in the show notes. If you're interested in listening to these two songs, I'll write the names in the show notes, so that you guys can look them up if you want. But those two songs, like one, the one song with the two girls. Always makes me cry because the words are so crazy impactful and it basically just saying like once you have the next thing like that You think you're gonna be happy and yeah, really it's just like you left feeling empty Because it's a temporary fixed. That's it. That's a really good song. I would even say I really like that song, too So yeah, those two are coming to mind as well Yeah, yeah, and and that's that those two songs are definitely about being thankful Yeah, you know focusing on like what you have is good, and I think it's amazing for sure we just we just hope that everyone's encouraged by you know By by what we're what we're saying here and stuff like that and I would just like to pray over over us and just say like yeah. Father, we just, We just thank you. We are thankful for you, Father. We are thankful for the price that you paid for us. allow us to see, allow, allow us to see what, what things that we truly have in life that are amazing. Highlight it for us, God. Show us all the good that you do In all things. Yeah. In Jesus mighty name, I pray that everyone listening to this, wherever they're at, God, you show, you, you show up in their lives and you help them see the brighter side of things. In the name of Jesus, we pray. Amen. Amen. Yeah, I just want to say again, If you guys don't mind taking the time, if you haven't already, posting those reviews on our mostly, I guess, would be like Spotify or Apple podcasts, are the main ones, because we really do want to reach more people and it really just helps our podcast even get noticed. Otherwise it's just kind of under the radar and our hope is to reach people as I said last time and so we just really want to, impact some people and just share Some real conversations of stuff we're going through and stuff that people are going through and can relate to and we just we love doing this we love sitting down and having these conversations and just Not only connecting just us but like connecting with you guys. And so I'm glad we can Can do it. So if you guys can do that, that would be so, so amazing. and yeah, I guess we'll see you in the next one. Peace.